This might be the saddest reflective emotional overeating post I’ve ever written…
There will always be down days. We’re human after all. But what happens for the emotional overeater on these, however rare occasions can bring despair, misery and feelings of failure.
Those feelings are all too familiar. It’s a cycle of hope, faith, then in a blink it can turn to indulgence and despair.
It’s the worst kind of self-loathing imaginable.
All those feelings of expectation. This time it’ll be different. I’m feeling positive and have renewed strength. Now is my time. My time to finally be the size I’m meant to be. To be able to enjoy any food with willpower. To succeed.
I’m going to the gym. I’m shopping for salad. I’ve substituted for skinny latte. Life is a breeze. And I’m losing weight. It’s working.
What happens on down days?
The days when seemingly from out of nowhere, I’m tired, irritable, idle perhaps, feel apathy, confusion, questioning my very life and all its facets. I’m emotional.
Am I really happy – at work? in love? with my friends? as I play?
Is THIS it? Is this ALL there is? It is so hard!
Or there’s a trigger. An unexpected bill arrives when I’ve planned to save. The car breaks down on the way to an important meeting. I try on a gorgeous-looking dress for a party, only to find it looks like a sack of potatoes. The job I interviewed for, is not converting and an annoying cough keeps me awake most of the night. It feels like the magic carpet has been pulled out from under my feet. Emotional responses are in full flow.
Suddenly the gym is the last place I want to be. I resign myself to whatever I must do to get through this challenge. And there’s something I can do which, for a while will soothe the pain.
Food.
Pangs Of Emotional Eating…
I am unlikely to be able to avoid most of the things that are detrimental to my health, especially in this moment. It might be alcohol, sugar in its many forms, white bread or cheese. But it depends on what’s around. I’ll find something. Lots of it. And it’s not usually something which I otherwise know to be good for me. I may even make a big effort to get something, in particular, go out in the rain, in the car or in the middle of the night. I have to have it, you see. There’s no other option. More often than not, I’ll convince myself that this something is really OK. Maybe I’ll call it a treat, a rare occasion, a ‘need’. But one thing is for sure, in the heat of the moment, it won’t be mindful or intuitive eating. I may even eat it before I taste it. Which will mean I want more. And then some more. Until it’s gone. Including the extra, I planned to keep for the weekend.
There is a buzz, a rebellion, a f**k it! in there most times.
Maybe I’ll sleep better for it, this soothing. But at some point, I’ll start to feel some guilt, shame, failing. I’ll question my worth, my ability, my purpose. Sometimes I can quickly draw another line under the ‘episode’ by promising another abstaining fast, diet or extreme exercise to make-up for the binge. It’s how I get through.
I’m so desperate. My poor body.
It doesn’t deserve this. But I feel trapped. Stuck in the cycle. And it sucks. I hate this. I want so much for change. Why can’t I just STOP?
Oh well, tomorrow is another day……
We’re In This Together
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